Trauma and PTSD

 

Trauma Affects You In Ways You Don’t Always See

The nagging thought, “I’m not good enough,” comes deep from inside of you. You think back to moments in your life when adversity occurred, and how those experiences disheartened you. Maybe they left you feeling numb. As if you’re living in a haze, just going through the motions, or unable to enjoy the things you love anymore. Perhaps your world has simply smaller, like your life has been reduced to “eat, sleep, and work,” with little time and energy for anything else.

Or maybe you feel just the opposite—you are drinking more, engaging in unhealthy sex, or taking part in self-destructive behaviors. Perhaps you’ve become more volatile, irritable, and emotionally reactive. You feel you can’t do anything right and want to yell “What about me?”

If this is how you feel, you might be struggling with unaddressed trauma. Trauma often manifests itself in subtle ways, throwing off your sense of daily routine. You may be unable to relax, always waiting for the worst to happen, or constantly flooded with intrusive, negative thoughts. If you want to know how trauma might have affected you, I can help you gain insight into your past, stay grounded in the present, and live confidently in the years to come.

The Roots Of PTSD Run Deep And Are Unique To Every Survivor

Most people have experienced some form of trauma in their lives, but many of them aren’t aware of it. Why? Put simply, many people don’t know whether their experience really counts as traumatic. Obvious examples like sexual abuse or military combat are easy to spot, but there are subtler forms of trauma—such as exposure to verbally-abusive parents, childhood neglect, grief and loss, multiple sports injuries, and even repeated romantic rejection. These are all considered traumas of omission, because they’re characterized by the absence of something—by a lack of love, care, or fulfillment. They usually take place over long periods of time instead of in single instances.

Whatever form of trauma you’re dealing with, it’s important to seek help. On average, most people wait eleven years to seek help for their mental health. By that time, they often find themselves dealing with unhealthy coping habits, toxic relationships, or even eating disorders. With my approach to trauma therapy, you can overcome triggers, learn new coping skills, and keep PTSD symptoms from aggravating you further.

PTSD Treatment Can Help You Make Peace With Your Past

Trauma counseling offers a safe space for you to be vulnerable, feel heard and seen, and find compassion and understanding for your troubles. Most importantly, I want you to know you’re not broken, and there’s nothing “wrong” with you. Everything you’re feeling is normal. Therapy offers the perfect place for you to find validation for your struggles and encouragement in your desire to move forward.

The therapeutic process is entirely tailored to your needs. At the beginning, you may feel a little apprehensive discussing your experience—which is perfectly normal. Many people do. In my sessions, I will educate you on the brain and its neurobiology so you can understand that how you feel is not your fault, but simply the truth of how our brains work (but I promise it won’t get too technical!) What’s more, my approach is anything but intimidating. I like to laugh, bring in humor, and normalize the issues at hand so you don’t feel overwhelmed. Additionally, you’ll learn grounding techniques and skills for calming your nervous system.

My approach relies heavily on a revolutionary treatment called Brainspotting. With Brainspotting, we stimulate your senses of sound and sight to access the deeper, subconscious part of your brain, where trauma is stored. This is done through visual concentration exercises that allow you to healthily process your memories and release negative emotions. While talk-therapy helps engage your “thinking brain,” Brainspotting integrates the mind and body by accessing the “feeling brain,” which is where traumatic distress lies. Even if our thoughts don’t confront unpleasant memories, those memories can still negatively impact how we feel. By changing how you feel, Brainspotting can change how you react to trauma and empower you to live joyfully in spite of your past.

I also use Eye-Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), a form of therapy that operates similarly to Brainspotting. EMDR uses visual stimulation techniques—such as hand-tapping and side-to-side eye movements—to change how the brain responds to distress signals. I may even incorporate mindfulness therapy, which seeks to heal PTSD through meditation and present-moment techniques. All of these approaches are rooted in the body’s natural healing capacities.

By working with your brain and body, advocacy for your needs will come more naturally. You will probably find it easier to form healthy relationshipsand connections. Boundaries will be something communicated and the need to “give all” will be more balanced. You will begin to see changes in your sleep and in the way you treat yourself through nutrition and exercise. You will realize the mental fog has lifted and you can live, love, and laugh more freely.

You may have some concerns about PTSD treatment…

Will trauma counseling make me feel worse?

Look at it this way: if you’re already dealing with PTSD, therapy can only help. After all, you’re not going to heal if you continue to struggle alone. With me, you’ll learn clinically-proven, research-driven methods for reducing your symptoms. And I promise you won’t have to relive traumatic experiences; both Brainspotting and EMDR change the way your brain responds to traumatic memories, without you having to re-experience them.

I don’t want people to think something’s wrong with me.
I understand the fear of going to therapy for such delicate issues. If you’ve never told anyone about your traumatic experience before, that’s OK. Many people haven’t. In our sessions, I will ensure you feel validated in what you’re going through. And no matter your struggles, you can rest assured there’s nothing wrong with you.

I don’t have the time or money for PTSD Counseling.

PTSD treatment is an investment like any other, but it’s arguably the most important one you can make. After all, the effects of trauma usually get worse over time. How can you get to a place of contentment in life if you’re always stuck in the same negative cycles day after day? In order to move forward in life and make the most of your time and money, sometimes you have to make an investment in your future.

 

You Can Find Healing From Your Trauma

Many clients come to me because their patterns are impacting their relationships and life in ways that leave them feeling more alone. Things can be different. I encourage you to call 385-240-0689 to set up a free 15-minute phone consultation. You can also connect with me through the contact form or schedule a first session. At the moment, due to COVID-19, I offer both telehealth and in person therapy. I will do whichever option feels best for you.

Hi, I’m Kristi! I help great guys feel more and numb less. I work with intelligent women who have gone through the wringer and want more out of life. I help fantastic big-hearted loved ones who are overwhelmed and angry make space for love again. Ultimately, I help individuals become more integrated and connected!

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